Hi, Carolyn: My boyfriend of six months has a best friend, John, who now lives in another country, which has notorious gender inequality and poverty. Were all in our early 30s. My boyfriend was always at Johns beck and call, and I sense John resents my appearance on the scene. John has asked my boyfriend to host two of Johns female friends for a week while they visit our city. They are single and in their early 20s.
I get the very strong impression it is a setup and John is trying to break us up. I feel like Im being controlling, but I have told my boyfriend I do not want these women to stay with him. I think he would have otherwise agreed, but told John the women couldnt stay with him. John has now cut him off completely and my boyfriend blames me for breaking up their friendship.
Even if I was out of line, I feel if it were truly just about hosting, that would be no reason to end a friendship. I would appreciate your perspective. Girlfriend