Dear Carolyn: I always knew my sister was my dads favorite. He always made time to show up at her cheerleading competitions but never to my soccer games. Not once. Then there were the daddy-daughter dances at our high school. My sister and dad loved them so much, and I couldnt wait until it was my turn. My dad travels almost every weekend for work, so the fact that hed stay home and go to the dances was really important. When my turn came, my dad didnt decline weekend work for me, not even my senior year, after he promised hed make it.
I know it sounds stupid but that really broke my heart. At my sisters wedding my dad gave a toast about how she was his special little girl who he loved so much that he actually turned down work to go to dances with her. I had to force myself not to cry.
Now Im getting married and theres no way I want him walking me down the aisle, having a special dance with me or giving a toast. I told my mom so she could be the one to tell him and she is begging me to reconsider, saying Im being petty and making a spectacle of myself.