Dear Carolyn: I cant seem to get out of this pit of negativity about myself. I only hear the negatives people say about me; for example, I had a huge presentation at work, got several genuine complements, and all I heard was one persons very mild criticism that I brushed too close to an issue our office does not discuss/handle. I constantly feel the need to apologize for anything and everything, even if its just that someone got upset at a situation, not at me.
Even when my husband says something just to be ridiculous or silly hes a bit of a comedian I feel like it was my fault and did something wrong, so Ill start apologizing for his silly, made-up situation. He tries to help but refuses to acknowledge that I think I suck at everything and Im worthless, which can frustrate me which frustrates him, which I then apologize for … and the cycle continues.
He is wonderfully supportive and provides me a lot of help, even when I dont hear him saying it.
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