Dear Carolyn: Im a middle-aged woman living with my partner for the past seven years. He moved to my city and built a new business from scratch. In the beginning, I paid the bills while he got established.
Now time has passed and Im wondering why he doesnt contribute to the utility bills or the mortgage. Should he? What is fair? And how do I bring it up after all this time?
Weve always kept our finances separate. I make a comfortable salary, have a lot of equity in my home and a 401k. He has a fluctuating, smaller income and no real savings for retirement or otherwise. Im starting to think about retirement goals and how to reach them and feel the need to get everything out on the table. But I dont know how to start the conversation.
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