Maybe talk to her before deciding she’s not ‘The One’

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May 21, 2019 - 10:44 AM

Dear Carolyn: My girlfriend of three years, “Debbie,” wants us to get married and I asked for some time to decide. That time is running out. She’s 34 and I can understand why she wants to start a family.

The thing is, I’m not positive she’s the one. I always figured when the right woman came along, I would just know it. I love Debbie, she’s beautiful, kind and generous, but there’s still some nagging doubts — like that her sister and mom are both stay-at-home moms and even though Debbie says that’s not for her, will she expect that when she gets pregnant? I have no desire to be the sole wage-earner.

My dad told me years ago I would know when the right girl came along, and that I shouldn’t settle, but now he’s urging me not to let this wonderful woman get away.

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