Dear Carolyn: Three sisters, all in mid-40s, all live within hours of each other and are generally very close. I, as the oldest, like to plan twice-a-year sisters retreats where we all travel somewhere fun. Lately, the middle sister is not feeling these outings. We all initially agree on plans, and then at the last minute she flakes out with some flimsy excuse and says she really doesnt want to go to that particular place.
Lately it seems that if shes not initiating the plans or event in general, shes not really interested. Yet, she expects us to show up at whatever event she plans.
How can we get her to open up about whats really bugging her?