She judges dates whose parents are divorced

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April 15, 2018 - 11:00 PM

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Dear Carolyn: I am wary of dating guys whose parents are divorced. My parents and most of my friends’ parents are happily married. I think people whose parents are divorced may have a different sense of marriage — i.e., that it doesn’t have to be for a lifetime. I think it does. I basically have no idea how to deal with someone whose parents are divorced because it’s foreign to me. So, how do I? — D.C.

Answer: As with any unknown animal, you approach slowly, with your eyes cast down in a nonthreatening way. Offer a biscuit if you have one.

That’s what my dog thinks, anyway. She filled in for me while I was off retching.

You deal with people whose parents are divorced by treating them as you would any other human being (or should, if you didn’t nod off in decency class): by getting to know them and their values before you judge them as wanting. The strongest marriages are rooted in grace, compassion and openminded acceptance. And, no matter who your parents are, you’ve got a long way to go.

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