She wants an independent life

It is an act of love for this Good Person you chose to try to reshape your marriage into something that enriches you both — and teaches your kids how to coexist without gritting your teeth.

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December 29, 2020 - 8:40 AM

Dear Carolyn: I have a nice husband: responsible, holds a good job, does most of his chores around the house regularly, is a reasonably good dad, and is a Good Person. And I’m so restless and unappreciative of that right now.

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Maybe it’s the pandemic, but I honestly feel like it’s deeper, and it’s been brewing for a while. If you asked me what I want, it would be this:

1. Stay married, but see other people from time to time. (I don’t have anyone in mind. I’ve never cheated. Not even sure I want to. But seems fair to be open to this.)

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