Wife dashes hopes of intimacy



May 12, 2018 - 4:00 AM

Tell Me About It

Dear Carolyn: My wife and I are coming up on a milestone anniversary. We have been talking about taking a big trip to observe this.

Recently, my wife was visiting her sisters and started talking about this trip. I’m not exactly sure what happened, or how it happened, but apparently, she said, “Do you want to come?” We had not talked about this being a family trip, and I had thought an “anniversary” trip was for the couple only. One of her sisters took her up on this invitation.

So, now I feel stuck. She reported this to me after it happened — though some time after it had happened. I obviously objected, but I got a lot of, “She’s excited; how do I let her down?” I feel really stuck, and, frankly, a bit betrayed. Any suggestions? — Stuck

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