Aging father writes high school girlfriend

"I understand all of your hard feelings, I do. ... But you can exercise the compassion to leave him alone."



January 27, 2021 - 8:54 AM

Dear Carolyn: My 86-year-old father has had a two-year long email correspondence with his old high school girlfriend. He writes to her at least once a day, sometimes more. He shares information about us kids and his grandkids, which is none of her business, and says things that are a bit more than just friendly chatting.

He leaves his email open, so I’ve read a few of them when I’ve been at their house for holidays. (I know, I know.)

The kicker is that he’s been happily married to my mom for more than 60 years. My mom is starting to suffer from slight mental decline, and I think he is lonely. It feels as if he is having an emotional affair with this woman. My sisters and I are pretty irritated. We want him to knock off the emailing, or at the very least not talk about us kids. Is there anything we can do?

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