At last count it takes two to make a baby



May 23, 2019 - 9:41 AM

Dear Carolyn: I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m not happy about it. Quick backstory: I’m about to turn 40 and recently married my boyfriend of six years. We almost didn’t get married because he did not want to have kids and I was not prepared to say never.

After many (many) conversations and one near breakup — a sad but kind one — he decided he’d rather be with me and would be open to having a child if it happened.

Well, it’s happened, and all I feel is dread. It’s been a week and I can’t seem to dig up one happy feeling. My husband says it’s totally up to me what I want to do, though he’s understandably concerned that I’m not more excited, and worried about proceeding if that doesn’t change.

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