Dear Carolyn: My girlfriend has a horrible cat. Most of this is her fault because shes never tried to train him out of attacking people, stealing food and screaming continually in the night because he used to be an outdoor cat. Her parents live out in the country, and he was basically a farm cat my girlfriend brought with her to the city. She has not even had him fixed.
That sounds very judgmental, but hes a cat. You cant blame him for this stuff, its not like he knows better.
I dont want to live with this cat. My girlfriend says my refusal to move in until the cat is gone is a me or the cat ultimatum. I dont think thats entirely fair; he is 18 so I can just wait out nature. I did suggest she could rehome the cat with her parents, whom he used to live with, but that was the only give up the cat suggestion I made.