Daughter not responsible for fixing mom’s mistakes

Dear Carolyn: How do I learn not to be resentful when someone continually puts me in a bad spot?

My mother’s life philosophy is, “I’m going to do what I want, when I want. That’s the only way to live life.” She has no regard for consequences or the position she puts others in. She was unstable when I was a kid because of this. We were often homeless or crashing with her friends.

Now that I’m in my 30s, it bothers me in new ways. She spends ALL her money and then doesn’t have enough for medication, food, living. I’m afraid she’s going to have to live with me. She has a medical condition, but eats exactly what she shouldn’t eat and then ends up in the emergency room. I have to go take care of it. I can’t just keep taking off work!