Dear Carolyn: My 25-year marriage ended about five years ago, due mostly to his (not first) affair. He is now married to The Other Woman. He and I remain stiffly cordial because we have two now-grown daughters.
Sooner or later, I am going to have to meet this woman. There will be a wedding or a graduation or something, and I am already dreading it.
Do I have to take the high road and shake her hand if she offers it? I dont picture doing anything too dramatic, but I do picture looking at her proffered hand and saying, Oh, no thank you. And then I picture my ex-in-laws shaking their heads at me.