Do I have to be nice to The Other Woman?

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May 30, 2019 - 10:03 AM

Dear Carolyn: My 25-year marriage ended about five years ago, due mostly to his (not first) affair. He is now married to The Other Woman. He and I remain stiffly cordial because we have two now-grown daughters.

Sooner or later, I am going to have to meet this woman. There will be a wedding or a graduation or something, and I am already dreading it.

Do I have to take the high road and shake her hand if she offers it? I don’t picture doing anything too dramatic, but I do picture looking at her proffered hand and saying, “Oh, no thank you.” And then I picture my ex-in-laws shaking their heads at me.

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