Dear Carolyn: My wife and I often grocery shop together. My wife will predictably identify something among my few items and ask that I return it to the shelf. It reminds me of a mother telling a child to put back the Lucky Charms. Yet, she may have a few similar items.
I typically put up some resistance but relent to avoid an in-store argument. These episodes have taken their toll on me.
I have voiced my feelings to my wife in the moment and during therapy. These small issues have become a metaphor for what I feel is belittling me and my role.