Dear Carolyn: Im not even sure how to start this because I feel like a terrible person getting myself into this situation. I recently got engaged to a great guy kind, responsible, outstanding human being. Because we are both 40, we immediately tried for a child, and, joy and surprise, I immediately got pregnant.
Im overjoyed about the baby. However, despite the fact our relationship is going smoothly, Im not feeling any desire to actually .?.?. get married. In fact, Ive been waking up dreaming about a former boyfriend and wishing I were marrying him, and I am feeling painfully aware that although I definitely love my fiance, I dont love love love him the way I know Im capable of.
He, Im pretty sure, does love love love me. Im feeling trapped. Im missing laughter. Im feeling terrible. Im not sure how to proceed or even what questions to ask myself.