He apologized for emotional affair but she needs more

"He didn’t hurt you on purpose. He’s sorry he did it. He’s not introspective. He won’t become so upon request."



May 8, 2020 - 2:06 PM

Dear Carolyn: Can you please outline for me what I need from my husband concerning his emotional cheating? Three years out, I still feel it’s unresolved. When asked why he chose to shut me out and open up to another woman — half his age — he has said repeatedly he doesn’t know. He has never been one for introspection. I am not sure he knows how.

Carolyn HaxCourtesy photo

He has acknowledged what he did, has said he is extremely sorry, has said he didn’t connect what he was doing to its potential to hurt me. But we had been growing distant for a while beforehand.

As time passes, and as my requests for him to say more on the subject go unanswered, I don’t know what to do. — Unhealed

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