It’s OK to have a blue Christmas



December 9, 2019 - 10:04 AM

Dear Carolyn: We lost our father this year, and I am dreading the holidays without him. I was closer to my dad than my out-of-state siblings, who are now hosting traditional holiday events that would require boarding the dog and arranging a hotel room for us rather than our Christmas celebration at my dad’s beautiful house, a 10-minute car ride from here. The house has been sold and I miss my dad every day.

I am not sure I even want to be there — and I’ve been told I have to. I don’t feel like a party. I don’t want to put the dog in the kennel. And yet … I am not sure if staying apart from my siblings this year is selfish, tinged with self-pity and something I’ll regret. — Dreading the Holidays

Dreading the Holidays: I’m so sorry for your loss.

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