Daughter’s crowded home offers no comfort

It's possible to tell her, gently, that you'd rather stay at a hotel.



March 23, 2020 - 9:47 AM

Carolyn HaxCourtesy photo

Dear Carolyn: My daughter and her husband have a large home, and when we visit, we stay with them at their request.

My issue is their housekeeping. Between the dogs, sinks overflowing with dirty dishes, and rotting food in the fridge, I have no place to go to de-stress. Even our bedroom is full of stuff. There is literally no uncluttered surface in their home. I believe there is some hoarding going on.

There is a nice hotel very nearby, so I could have my own space when I need it. But how to address this without hurting anyone’s feelings? I love my daughter and her family, but I am an anxious basket case by the time I leave and am already stressing about our next visit. We visit twice a year and stay no more than four nights. — Anxious

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