Hi, Carolyn: I wonder if you can help me sort out the hurt and anger I have come to feel in some of my friendships. I find myself often being the initiator for getting together with my peers. In general I’m a leader type, confident, extroverted. I typically reach out first when I want to see someone or talk.
But I get tired of my role as the initiator. So then I go quiet, sometimes for many weeks, and … don’t hear from some of my friends, then miss them, want to see them, and … I cave, and initiate coffee, drinks at my house, or a walk. Nearly always my overtures are reciprocated; I believe they are genuinely glad to hear from me.
I don’t do most social media, so I understand I am choosing not to be as present in those ways.
