Should I confront my husband’s mistress

It's not a good idea to rehash old relationships out of resentment, Carolyn Hax warns. Instead, seek a more positive outlet.



July 7, 2020 - 9:02 AM

Dear Carolyn: During the 1980s, my husband had several affairs. I stuck it out and successfully raised our children despite all the problems.

I know of an affair with someone who still lives in the same town. He doesn’t know that I know, and neither does she. She is married now and acts like a pillar of the community. It sickens me because she thinks she got away with sleeping with a married man who had children to boot. Although she was not married at the time, she was plenty old enough to know better.

I want to at least let her know that I know. I am sure she didn’t tell her husband she had been seeing a married man before she met him.

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