Respect their rules; trust comes later



January 15, 2020 - 10:25 AM

Dear Carolyn: My brother and sister-in-law had their first baby 18 months ago. She’s super cute and I’d love to spend time with her. Except they haven’t left her, except for two hours one day last year, AT ALL. No grandparents’ babysitting, no date nights, no fun aunt time, etc.

This obviously sounds exhausting and not at all healthy for anyone involved.

So far, I’ve played into their requests and spend time with her whenever I can, with them. But it’s hard to bond with a kid when she knows her better choice is right there hovering over her, and I’m kind of over it. The last straw was asking whether I would watch her at the mall while they got their hair cut. I’m 40, not a 13-year-old kid, I’m not going to watch her at the mall.

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