Dear Carolyn: My brother and sister-in-law had their first baby 18 months ago. Shes super cute and Id love to spend time with her. Except they havent left her, except for two hours one day last year, AT ALL. No grandparents babysitting, no date nights, no fun aunt time, etc.
This obviously sounds exhausting and not at all healthy for anyone involved.
So far, Ive played into their requests and spend time with her whenever I can, with them. But its hard to bond with a kid when she knows her better choice is right there hovering over her, and Im kind of over it. The last straw was asking whether I would watch her at the mall while they got their hair cut. Im 40, not a 13-year-old kid, Im not going to watch her at the mall.