Dear Carolyn: Being totally in love is overrated. I have never felt that intensely about my husband and do not love him as much as Ive loved exes. I certainly dont get along with my husband as well as I did with one particular ex.
But you know what? The men I did love that way either lied to me, hurt me, borrowed money, stood me up, left me with wedding deposits I never got back, made promises they never kept. My husband has never done those things.
I dont look at my marriage as a loss. I look at it as though the spouse I really wanted simply doesnt exist.