Hi, Carolyn: I am a stay-at-home mom of children 9, 7 and 4. My brother and his wife had their first baby three months ago. Before the baby was born, my sister-in-law, Sue, told me she was thinking of staying home full time and asked me to share any thoughts and tips I had. I spent the next few months introducing her to other moms in my local SAHM community and offering up every piece of advice I had so she would feel supported if she joined in. I really would have loved to have Sue become a permanent part of our community.
She announced last week shes going back to work and leaving the baby with a nanny for a variety of reasons (not financial).
For some reason, I am feeling very hurt. I really threw myself into trying to welcome her into SAHM life and I feel she surveyed the resources I showed her and decided they simply werent good enough. Worse, I feel she is judging me in a way she didnt before, now that she has met my friends and knows more about my daily life.