Until the divorce is in the past, look forward, not on the inside

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January 9, 2020 - 10:35 AM

Hi, Carolyn: My husband and I are getting divorced. We have lived like roommates for years, but it all came to an end when he started blaming me for most of our problems, began an emotional affair and kept lying about it when I caught him. I’ve moved ahead with finding an attorney.

He finally apologized for how things ended, but it’s unclear to me what he’s really sorry for — the lying and getting caught, the affair itself or how he was treating me.

Everything is moving so quickly. We’re not compatible and maybe never were, so this will be a good thing for us. However, I do still care about him and believe his mental health issues were at least partly to blame for his behavior.

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