Wife’s procrastination cost her promotion



April 2, 2018 - 11:00 PM

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Dear Carolyn: A rare and coveted job — higher salary, growth potential, interesting work — opened at my wife’s office, and she was told it was hers if she just submitted the formal application. Wife struggles with procrastination so I tried to be helpful: “Want me to take the kids to the movies so you can work on application in peace? Skip my work dinner and proofread your resume?” She assured me she was on top of it.

She wasn’t. She didn’t open the job link until an hour before the hard deadline, at which point she learned the instructions were more extensive than anticipated. The clock ran out before she could finish.

Wife is sad and disappointed. I feel terrible for her. But I’m also really angry she torpedoed her career like this, especially when the benefits for our family seemed so tangible and accessible. It’s taking every bone in my body to not scream I TOLD YOU SO, WHY DIDN’T YOU LISTEN TO ME? What should I do? — Witness to Self-Sabotage

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