Different spending habits cause wedding concerns

There is always a point where a commitment to being reasonable becomes unreasonable



March 11, 2020 - 10:41 AM

Hi, Carolyn: My partner and I were raised in households with different views on how to spend money. We are responsible with our money and have no debt, but my partner likes to spend more than I do on a number of things. They follow trends and care more about what other people think and like. I’m on the other end, where I tend not to give much thought to that.

Carolyn Hax

We are in the middle of planning for our wedding, and there has been a lot of friction on what I’m willing to spend and what my partner wants. I feel like being more reasonable with the money we spend, whereas my partner wants to make sure they don’t miss out on some of the experiences of this occasion.

Lately, my partner has been more agreeable and giving up certain things. I think they are doing this to appease. Am I being unreasonable to be reasonable? — Planning

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