Dear Carolyn: I work in an extremely demanding job that has always expected late nights, overtime, uncompensated work on the weekends, and basically a commitment to make it one of the most important things in your life. Its a charity organization that I deeply agree with, and I have always made that commitment happily.
A new hire started at the firm recently who doesnt. It drives me to distraction to see Pat swan out of the office at half five, never answer emails until arriving at work and rarely work through lunch. On occasion when we have an emergency project on short notice, Pat will chip in with the rest of us, but not often. Pat admits to not understanding our commitment to the job and says its different in Europe (where Pat is from), where they work to live.
It would be annoying if Pat did this and was failing, but Pats work is consistently praised by our boss and put Pat in line for a promotion.