Canceled plans leave parent feeling like a puppet

A son leaves his parent up in arms because of his tendency to make — and then break — plans to get together. Such actions may carry other meanings, Carolyn Hax notes.



January 26, 2023 - 11:52 AM

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Adapted from an online discussion. 

Dear Carolyn: My son will make a date to call or visit, then cancel at the last minute. I’ve told him I do not like this, but he continues with this behavior. He says he needs time to think about what he is going to do with his life and can’t communicate for two or three weeks.

I want to visit with my son, but I feel like I’m a puppet on his string.

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