Dear Carolyn: I love my brother he and I are the only family we have in our area but am gradually seeing less and less of him because of my food- and weight-fixated sister-in-law.
They have been married for decades and shes never been my favorite, however, over the past 10 years shes increasingly obsessed with everyone elses weight and how much they eat. She consistently comments on my nieces food intake her children are adults my eating speed or amount of food I order, my perceived weight gain or loss, the amount of food prepared for a meal, her brothers weight, ad nauseam.
No one in our family is obese, and she, my brother and their kids actually look pretty thin. Im in good health at 61.