Dear Carolyn: I am a white adoptive mother of four beautiful African American children of different skin tones. I also have two white birth children. When we go places, I am inevitably asked if we are a school group, camp, day care or what organization is this? I sometimes snap back with, Yeah, its this weird day care where I make the kids call me Mom and take them all grocery shopping. I also sometimes just ignore the questions. Usually, I just say, Its my family.
Then there are the still-nosier questions: Do they have the same birthparents? What country are they from? Were they born drug-addicted? Are their birthparents in jail?
These strangers are generally well-meaning and curious. But, they need to understand their curiosity doesnt need to be satisfied. Just because they wonder doesnt mean they should ask.
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