Dear Carolyn: For the umpteenth time, my stepdaughter and her family arrived 45 minutes late for a family gathering, disrupting others who were just picking up their forks to eat dinner.
I feel she disrespects the time, planning, money, and effort required to host a sit-down dinner for 15 people, which only happens a few times per year. She never offers to bring a dish, clean up after the event, or host at her home.
She claims to have ADD, but refuses to get a professional evaluation. She has no hobby or career and is a stay-at-home mom. Weve gently advised her to budget and find some means of earning for herself and her children since she has repeatedly threatened divorce from her alcoholic spouse.