Teacher’s spouse wants more than barbecued gratitude

Your husband really wants you just to go and have fun. Since that’s what he wants, I hope you’ll do it. Even if you’re in no mood.

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March 5, 2020 - 8:59 AM

Dear Carolyn: My husband is an elementary school teacher and his students have been sending home a bunch of stuff all week for teacher appreciation. Tonight the PTA is having a barbecue for teachers and their families.

Carolyn Hax

I understand this is nice, but what I actually want is for my husband’s classroom to be stocked with supplies that he doesn’t have to buy. I want parents to respect his office hours and stop texting and emailing on nights and weekends. I want him to be paid a salary that reflects his education and work ethic.

I feel like events like this are placating, and I am not in the mood to participate. My husband is much nicer and really wants me to just go and have fun like the other spouses. How do I shake this feeling? — Not in the Mood

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