Dear Carolyn: I hate honorifics for myself and want to be called by my first name, period. Some kids in my life have parents who say they HAVE to call me Ms. Lastname or at least Ms. Firstname. They insist its important to them that their kids show respect. I keep telling them the best way their kids can show respect is by respecting what people want to be called! The parents get really upset when I tell the kids, Please just call me Firstname. We are at an impasse.