Dear Carolyn: My wife and I separated a few months ago. I had felt lonely and unsatisfied in our marriage and consequently developed feelings for another woman. My wife found out, I moved out, and I moved on with my affair partner.
It was the worst mistake of my life. Once the newness of the relationship wore off, we fought constantly and ended up breaking up.
Now Im realizing how stupid and selfish Ive been. I had felt lonely and trapped in our marriage because my wife was spending all her time taking care of our kids, and I had grown to resent her for it. But I wasnt helpful, I wasnt present, and I regret not communicating with her. My selfishness led to the breakdown of my marriage and I am truly sorry.