Friends can’t believe we fixed our marriage

“We’re accepting applications for people to be happy for us”



March 16, 2020 - 9:15 AM

Carolyn Hax

Dear Carolyn: For a few weeks last year, my husband and I were pretty sure we were going to get a divorce and shared that fact with a select few people (who in turn spread the news to basically our entire family and social circle). Then we found out I was pregnant and changed course — therapy, complete relationship overhaul, the works.

Carolyn Hax

The baby is here now, and on the whole we are happier than I thought it was possible for us to be. I consider it a win, but a number of people close to us do not; they either believe we “gave up,” or think one of us masterminded the pregnancy on purpose to trap the other. I’m exhausted by all the effort that goes into defending our relationship these days.

How do we get everyone out of our business, or convince them we are happy, so they should be happy for us? — Maryland

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