He wants to help a flagging friend

Treat him as you would any old friend — show an interest, let him tell you how to proceed. To be down on one’s luck already exacts a heavy price in security, social standing and peace of mind; regarding him as your equal in simple dignity and humanity is your best chance not to add another emotional cost to his bill.



March 19, 2021 - 12:47 PM

Dear Carolyn: Many years on from high school graduation, I have the opportunity to visit classmates, including a peripheral friend from our small graduating class. Many succeeded (traditional view) through life; some have not. This person was described to me as hard to reach and seemingly down on his luck, maybe even homeless. So when visiting this old “friend,” how do I approach it? Just listen, flat-out offer help, talk?

— Anonymous

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Anonymous: Visit? You sure? Covid?

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