Is it too crowded for stepdaughter?

Family vacation seems to put focus on 'his' child's problems instead of looking for creative solution.



February 10, 2020 - 9:46 AM

Dear Carolyn: After saving up for decades, my husband and I were able to buy a small vacation house. The house can comfortably sleep six people, give or take some shared beds.

Carolyn Hax

We have two young adult kids, and my husband has a daughter from a previous marriage. “Lily” is married and has three small children, and is expecting a fourth. We have tried to do an all-family vacation, and it just didn’t work. Lily & co. crammed into one bedroom but were uncomfortable, so my daughter had to give up her bedroom and sleep on the couch. It made a potentially lovely vacation very uncomfortable.

We are trying to plan our vacation for this summer. I would like my kids to be able to come and stay in the home, but I don’t think it makes sense for Lily & co. to come. Nor do I want to have to forgo a fun vacation with my kids for fear of making Lily feel excluded — which is often a thing with her.

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