Hi Carolyn: My husband and I had baby number three this year, we also have 3- and 5-year-olds. We have a pretty good life and are essentially living the dream, Im sure. We both work full time and put all of our remaining time and energy into our littles.
I feel and my husband does, too like weve lost our relationship. We like each other a lot and appreciate each other hugely (on good days!), three kids and keeping house is definitely a team effort for us, but our relationship has been back-burnered to the point that were not sure how to get it back on track. We live together, we get along OK, we make a point to have the occasional-bordering-on-rare date night, but there is little intimacy and not much of a connection between us anymore.
We talk about it, we try to make an effort, but were always exhausted and it seems like we keep swinging and missing at attempts to get back to how we used to be. Hes missing the intimacy, Im missing the connection, and we get frustrated when we feel like were making an effort and getting no return. Three Kids and No Relationship